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I'm a 16-year-old guy and I just found out my new family doctor is female. I'm really nervous about this because she might need to see or touch me down there. I've had a history of painful infections when I urinateand I have some questions about sex. Should I tell her this?
Sam*

Seeing a new doctor for the first time can be nerve-wracking, and it may feel doubly difficult if your doctor is a member of the opposite sex. However, having pain during urination is an important reason to see a doctor, even if that doctor is of the opposite sex.

It might help to know that your new doctor has probably examined hundreds or even thousands of young men during her career. She's looking at you in the same way that a male doctor would — as a patient. Chances are she's heard and seen your problems before — and helped other guys deal successfully with the same issues you're facing.

Your good health depends on the information you give your doctor, so it's a good idea to tell her about any issues or questions you have, and answer all her questions honestly. You could discover that your new doctor makes you feel at ease right away — or you may find that you're still a bit nervous. It might help you feel more relaxed if you spend some time talking to the doctor before you're examined. You can also bring your questions written down on a piece of paper. Then if you get nervous, you can look at it to remember your concerns. Or you could even give the doctor your list.

Your doctor just wants to help you, so be open and honest about things you are thinking or feeling. That way, she can check out possible problems, and answer any questions you have.

Reviewed by: Larissa Hirsch, MD
Date reviewed: May 2009

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*Names have been changed to protect user privacy.

 
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